"When it comes to crises or events that really upset us, this I have learned: you can have God or you can have understanding.  Sometimes you can have both.  But if you insist on understanding, it often doesn't come.  And that can create distance between you and God, because you're upset and demanding an explanation in order to move on, but the explanation isn't coming, and so you withdraw a bit from God and lose the grace that God is giving.  He doesn't explain everything.  But he always offers us himself."

John Eldredge, Walking With God